Not everyone is going to understand.
4 years ago I decided to build myself an at-home business in the hopes of creating a different future for my family. My biggest driving force is creating freedom in my schedule so that I can reduce stress and be a better mom and a better person on this earth.
By the time my fourth son was born, I had already replaced my income fully with my new health & wellness home based biz. This allowed me to step down from my day job. To me, it's been just one way that God has provided for our family. To others, they don't see it that way.
Some of the things that have been said about me:
- I care too much about money
- It was easy for me because I got in early
- I don't have to work hard
- I've changed
- I don't have good priorities
- I'm not being a good Christian (yep, actually said more than once).
It's interesting when you receive feedback from someone (or hear the gossip second hand). You feel the pain of hearing someone think something negative about you. But, you also feel the hurt that they are experiencing too.
let's be really clear here. When someone else is jealous of your or upset with your success, it's their problem, not yours. That's right. Unless you are behaving poorly and treating people badly, it's not usually about you. They are working something out in their life and they are projecting those feelings on to you. They are experiencing a sense of lack or overwhelm and they think your social media portrayed life must be way easier than theirs. It's natural for us to do this, but comparison never leads to fulfillment. It leads only to disappointment. We can ALWAYS find someone in the world who is excelling at something that we can't do. I know the pinterest worthy homes and moms always make me feel like a complete and total failure...if I let it.
Let's address some of these opinions.
Did I get in early?
Sure, I did. doTERRA hadn't even launched in Canada when I started. That sounds "early" to me. But, being "early" actually has ZERO prediction of someone's success. No one else is going to build my team/customers for me. Only I can do that. Existing in doTERRA doesn't mean I will automatically earn an income. I have to do the work. Some people started in doTERRA at the same time as I did and haven't grown their business like I have. It's reliant on the amount of work they put in, not their position within the company.
Do I have to work hard?
Sometimes. Sometimes it's LONG days and late nights and lots of rejection and uncomfortable feelings. Sometimes there are classes cancelled, or no shows, or even drama to sort out. And sometimes it feels easy and just right for me. Aren't other jobs like that? Good days and bad days? Busy season and slow season? It doesn't usually feel hard because I love it. Because I was intuitive enough to know that I couldn't work at a job that I hate. And, to really listen to what God is calling me to do means that I'm (almost) always at peace with His choices.
Have I changed?
You bet I have. I've grown in so many ways. I'm bolder in sharing my Faith. I'm stronger and more resilient. I'm more confident and fulfilled. I'm better with my spending habits. I'm more intentional about the relationships in my life and I'm actually doing something I haven't quit yet! But some things about me will never change. If you're my friend, you already know this about me. I will always love Jesus, turquoise & late night game nights.
What about money? Priorities? Living a Christian life?
These all fall under the same categories to me. My priorities have always been God, family, work then play. Some of my friends enjoy a spot closer to the family category. None of those priorities really involve money. I fully believe that God has given me enough and that is all I need. I love being generous to others, and earning a little extra and spending a little less has given me the opportunity save more and give more. I love that I can give, but I don't love money itself. I mean, we drive a 2003 dodge caravan. Clearly it's not about status for us! 😂 Having to work in an environment that isn't a Church community has forced me to get reallllly reliant on God. I have had to navigate new idea and new hardships in the "real world", but along the way it has strengthen what I believe and helped me to share more with others <3
Why do I share this?
I want you all to be prepped for what you will face when you learn how to be true to your calling. When you step into your potential. When you walk in a path that feels peaceful and beautiful. There will be lots of support and also lots of opposition. But you are resilient. You are going the right way. You have everything you need. You are in the perfect place to get there from here! You can totally do this!
